It doesn’t matter who you are, where you come from. The ability to triumph begins with you. Always. -Oprah Winfrey

At some point in our lives, and probably more accurately at several points in our lives, we have one of those “That’s IT!” moments.

I had one today.

Successful network marketing is really about following a formula, and persistency.  So is success in any form of sales. Actually, that’s pretty much a benchmark for success in anything.

If you want to be successful you have to follow the instructions and do so enough times in order to “get it right.” It’s like becoming a home-run hitter in baseball. You gotta step up to the plate and swing. The more you swing, the more you’ll miss BUT the more you will eventually connect and get the hits and yes, the home runs.

Babe Ruth had 1330 strike outs…and 714 Home Runs.

Reggie Jackson had 2597 career strike outs…and 563 Home Runs.

What’s my point? Can’t connect if you don’t “step up.”

Today I sat in a restaurant waiting for someone to show up who didn’t. that’s not so unusual. People don’t always honor their appointments. BUT the real problem was that that was the only appointment I had for the day.

I got out a pad of paper and wrote out 7 cities where I wanted to expand my business, based on having acquaintances or relatives there.

I left the restaurant and went back to my place and started CALLING people in three of those cities – even though it was already 4:30 pm where I was. I kept moving west as the time in each zone got to 5 pm. And I made connections!

Tonight at 9 pm I hosted a prospect to an informational call and afterward introduced him to one of my upline coaches. Afterward I called my coach back and we discussed the next step for him and other strategies for my expansion. We finished up around 10 pm.

Today I went up to bat a number of times and was successful. I “struck out” at the restaurant, but I connected on the new prospects in different states. I also made an adjustment of seeking to “recruit up” – go to people more successful than myself, rather than those with less. Funny thin happened when I made my introductions – they “got it.”

I got sent home from work after only 4-plus-some hours because “labor was up” (statistics = cost to owner). Then my appointment didn’t show. Then I came back and made the decision to make a change.

“This isn’t working” turned into “I gotta make this work.”

Grandmother Pa’Ris’Ha in her business coaching role with us has countless times reminded us to “up your failure rate” in order to achieve success. She is also an advocate of action = results.

I took action today. And I got positive results. Now I gotta go for persistency. Stay tuned. –Deborah Adler

‎“As we are propelled into transformation, we must master our thoughts and mind. We will need to push past our comfort levels and move to higher ground. Our passions and courage will push us past old fears and resistance.” –Pa’Ris’Ha Taylor

©2011 Deborah Adler. All rights reserved. (NOTE: All quotes remain the sole property of the original authors.)

God has a wonderful sense of humor! I walked into Pa’Ris’Ha Talyor’s office in the Center for Human Development in Cleveland twenty five years ago, filled with chagrin that after having gone to listen to other “teachers” in the fields of personal, professional and spiritual growth, I had heard nothing so profound and so pure as the Elder’s Wisdoms she shared from her traditional roots. We laughed that day, and have done so on numerous times since recalling my exasperated declaration of discovery!

Tonight I found myself smiling once again as I listened to an excellent coaching session from my network marketing upline leader that was essentially a recasting of the coaching I and a team of others have received numerous times down through the years from Grandmother Pa’Ris’Ha pursuant to building personal business ventures as entrepreneurs.

The wisdom is simple. Here’s a few highlights:

“Plan Your Work and Work Your Plan”

In evaluating daily and weekly activity, here are some indicators to consider –

1. In honest reflection, how was my week (day)?

2. Did I complete the actions I said I was going to do?

3. Did I stretch?

4. Did I grow?

5. Was I focused on the right activities and the right people?

Grandmother Pa’Ris’Ha has shared a simple benchmark from hr Grandmother:

“Does it grow corn?”

In other words, is the activity I’m engaged in one that will produce results. Will it bring my desired outcome into fruition? Is it the best activity for the time in which I’m doing it? In sales, the time to make calls is when businesses are open, or people are available. Emails, paper organization, etc. can best be done in “non-productive” hours, rather than take up precious contact time.

Energy is the essence of life. Every day you decide how you’re going to use it by knowing what you want and what it takes to reach that goal, and by maintaining focus. -Oprah Winfrey

When evaluating the true progress of your plan, here’s a simple but effective test:

1. What is not working in your business?

2. What corrective action do you need to take in order to change that?

The focus here is on self-discovery. If I’m looking at my own progress, I need to be honest, without being self-castigating. If I’m coaching a team member or assisting an associate as a reflection, my role is simply to ask the question from the place of the Observer and let that individual come up with their own answers. That leads to self-empowerment, which will make the “course correction” more readily embraceable.

‎“If you are not failing on an hourly and daily basis you are not trying to grow or move forward.” –Pa’Ris’Ha Taylor

I shared in an earlier post about Grandmother’s analogy of the airplane pilot needing to make course corrections in order to reach their destination. (ref). Grandmother Pa’Ris’Ha also often utilizes a strategy of action built around the concept “Mis-take; Re-take.”

When we embrace “failing forward” we take what hasn’t worked in stride as part of the learning process and then make the necessary “course corrections” or “re-take” that opens the way for a different and potentially better, more effective outcome.

‎“Making adjustments as we go and covering as much as we can in any instant is still not likely to prevent failure here and there. So you were wrong. Now do you die? Is it fatal? No! You re-take the whole thing and move forward.” –Pa’Ris’Ha Taylor

We are most successful when we are constantly measuring the effectiveness of our plan. That means perpetual evaluation. Evaluation is not about criticism, but rather about determining the “value” of what has taken place.

‎“Learning is dealing with failure. Growing is maximizing our failures.” –Pa’Ris’Ha Taylor

 

-Deborah Adler

©2011 Deborah Adler. All rights reserved. (NOTE: All quotes remain the sole property of the original authors.)

“If you are not failing on an hourly and daily basis you are not trying to grow or move forward.” – Pa’Ris’Ha Taylor *

I have often heard Coach Parisha Taylor remind those us who were not obtaining our desires results, of the necessity to be willing to “up your failure rate 300 percent!.”

This has particular meaning for those in sales, or network marketing, where the law of large numbers is what success is all about.

EXPOSURE is the name of the game. My job is to get the information to as many prospects as possible. I can’t control how they receive it or whether or not they eventually get it. My job is to EXPOSE the Prospect to the Information.

This brings to mind a saying from the 12-Step Recovery programs: “Let Go and Let God” In other words, if I do my job – getting the information out there in the proper way, then the results will be taken care of by a larger picture than just my personal wants and desires.

When I operate from a sincere place of service and helping others – my success rate goes up, for sure. But I’m still required to commit to the numbers and know that I’m going to hear “no” possibly more often in my day than I’m going to hear “yes.”

“This is not about setting out to fail. It is about knowing the reality that as you move forward with what you know in any given moment you are most likely to learn what you did not know when you began!” –Pa’Ris’Ha Taylor *

Each time I experience “failure” I learn from the outcome. Maybe I gain insight about a nuance in speech or gesture. Maybe I learn something more about my product or service through a question asked. Maybe I just get one of those “no’s” out of the way – on my way to the next sale. Whatever the case, whether if I run towards failure or run from it will determine the amount of wisdom gained. If I run from it, I will most certainly never gain any ground, never succeed – in business, or in life.

We’ve all heard the story of the lion and the gazelle awakening to a new day on the Serenghetti Plain. Each knows that by the end of the day, they may either be eaten, go free or go hungry. Either way, they both will have to run for their lives!

“Good luck is opportunity meeting preparedness.”
— Deepak Chopra

 

-Deborah Adler

*From Financial Literacy Series, An Enterprise Venture. © 2004 Pa’Ris’Ha Taylor. All rights reserved.

©2011 Deborah Adler. All rights reserved. (NOTE: All quoted material remains the property of the original authors.)

“If you want your life to be more rewarding, you have to change the way
you think”. – Oprah Winfrey

Some folks just really don’t appreciate “positive thinkers.” I know – I’ve heard from some of them after writing my blog posts! LOL!

But that’s okay. I think they assume that people who speak to the value of the power of our thoughts and words to shape our life experience think we are a bunch of fruity Pollyanas.

Actually, the people I know who are currently creating their lives out of their dreams and ambitions have seen their fair – and in some cases seemingly “unfair” – share of hard knocks in life. Tough “breaks” – failures – tragedy.

Whiners cry “foul” and constantly complain about the tide being against them.

Winners take the High Road. It’s NOT about never stumbling or grumbling or falling down. But Winners take what comes in stride and KEEP GOING. They don’t get bogged down. They don’t dwell in the obstacles, they get past them.

Winners practice appreciation. I’ve learned from my business and spiritual mentor and Elder of 25 years, Grandmother Pa’Ris’Ha, to look at what the word “appreciation” really means. It means to increase in value. So when we appreciate people, events and experiences in our lives, we invite more to appreciate.

We can get mired in the details or propelled by the overall view and outcome, all of which we determine by our thoughts and perceptions.

I have come to understand that we are not humans learning to be “spirit” while here on earth, but Spirit learning about being Human. We are all extensions of God-Creator-The  Source experiencing Creation through our bodily senses. Sometimes we can go “out-of-body” and re-experience the truth of who and what we are – Spirit. But I think that’s just a helpful reminder for us to not get lost in the physicality of third dimensional existence.

The “day-to-day” details of life can seem to close in on us if we let them. When we’re busy with Mind-Child, we don’t take time to “smell the roses.” Since we’re not really sure those roses exist anywhere else – they’re gifts for us to behold here and now!

“We feel happy when we have good intentions, and it’s a key to our days successes, but much too often all the great intentions get lost in the mind-child’s chatter and pathways* of what some call reality or necessities of living, while we do not catch or see that Creator is with us and talking to us in one thousand beautiful things!! Ahh…Beloveds so much slips away unnoticed….” -Pa’Ris’Ha

*pathways-habitual thinking and beliefs.

It takes repetitive action and vigilance to change the way our perceptions – positive thinking, staying in an attitude of gratitude, but the rewards are worth the effort.

Here’s a practice that has been shared by business coach Parisha Taylor, also known as Grandmother Pa’Ris’Ha:

“Begin your day with a focused moment, sit up as you awaken and think of four things that you feel grateful for, two people you appreciate in your life, and speak aloud good of yourself……

“Say, ‘May my eyes see one thousand beautiful things, and my hands touch one hundred sacred things!’

“Now the brain is in flow with intent. Repeat throughout the day as often as needed in celebration of recognition and having an ‘Aha!’ moment when you did catch the meaningful things of your day!

“Want success? Just count the good things of each day and give grateful acknowledgement that you have allowed it to be part of your day!” – Pa’Ris’Ha

 

©2011 Deborah Adler. All rights reserved. (NOTE: All original quoted material remains the sole property of the original authors.)

I was on a teleconference call tonight – the same team conference call I’m on every Monday night as part of my network marketing business.  This call is conducted by the Team Leader, who just happens to be one of the company’s Millionaire Club members. She’s starting a “90-Day Run” with those of us who have elected to do so to build our business, or “take it to the next level” as it’s often referred to.

What the 90-Day Run really is, is a “haul-balls-run-screaming-for-the-wall-bust-through-all-your-obstacles-and-keep-going” commitment. It’s the “Run for the Roses” – so to speak. For some, the final destination will be the top position in the compensation plan, for others it will be a particular figure of monthly income, for others it will be a particular size team or a particular number of groups or small businesses or individuals helped with the services.

Each person defines their personal reason for making “The Run.”

She shared something that she had received in an email today:

“Have you done all you can to make sure your plans for 2011 are going to maximize your success and are simple enough to put into action right away?”

My spiritual mentor, Elder, and business coach of 25 years has always stressed the importance of being “frequency specific.” In other words, we have to clearly define our goals. The greater detail we give to this process, the greater chance the Universe has to respond. We also increase the effectiveness of our goals by utilizing multiple senses in their creation – i.e. writing them down, speaking them, creating visuals through “vision boards,” meditation, and other known methods of  transforming thoughts into matter, i.e. results.

Paramount to achieving our goals is the belief that we can.

“There are no limitations in your life, only limited vision, and little faith.” –Pa’Ris’Ha

Equally paramount to achieving our goals is being willing to put in the work required.

“The big secret in life is that there is no big secret. Whatever your
goal, you can get there if you’re willing to work.” –Oprah Winfrey

Finally, the third component to achieving our goals is to know that our past performance, or lack of it, is only significant in terms of teaching us what didn’t work. Life, like Sales,  is a numbers game. Either be willing to take the “no’s” as part of your progress or get ready to live disenchanted and disillusioned.

“We cannot change the past, we can move forward and away from it and its influences.”  –Pa’Ris’Ha

Our experience is what we make it. When we give it our “all” – our best 100 Percent effort and then some…we’ll go the distance. But we have to be honest about that effort.

“When it really makes a difference is when you get real and stop the pretense and determine you and you alone can set the course of your life.” –Pa’Ris’Ha

©2011 Deborah Adler. All rights reserved.

Before you agree to do anything that might add even the smallest
amount of stress to your life, ask yourself: What is my truest
intention? Give yourself time to let a yes resound within you. When
it’s right, I guarantee that your entire body will feel it. – Oprah Winfrey

I have walked across a hot bed of burning coals on numerous occasions in the past 25 years while taking part in Ceremonial Fire Dances. As I have mentioned before here, this is not something that is accomplished by fooling the mind into believing that it is “cool moss” or some sort of illusion or anything else other than what it really is…a bloody hot fire that has the potential to melt a car engine!

I’ve tended those fires and witnessed many adults and even children walk across without injury. But whether or not one does so is in itself a lesson in listening to that “small still voice within.” It is about connecting with the God-Self.

Fact is, I didn’t walk my first time. At the culmination of the Fire Dance, we celebrated those who walked. Then we also celebrated those who honored their inner voice to not walk. Because the point of the event is not to dazzle anyone with your bravado – it’s about connecting with your Inner Truth.

My spiritual mentor and Elder Grandmother Pa’Ris’Ha, who is known to some as Parisha Taylor, has been an immensely successful business coach to many over the years, and she is one who understands and demonstrates that no one is unworthy of their goal and no goal is unworthy of accomplishment. Ultimately we are the only ones who obstruct our own progress – not on the field of play but in the arena of Mind-Child.

I am about to embark on a 90-day run for advancement in my network marketing business. Those of us who committed to this received an email today from our team leader. The subject line read, “Is Your Thinking Holding You Back?”

“One percent doubt and you’re out!”  Pa’Ris’Ha has often times repeated while coaching others to their businesses success.

“The fact is that when we fail to make the goals we set; it is not because we do not believe in the progress it offers, but because we stop opening to the possibilities and potentials therein.” -Pa’Ris’Ha

Once we commit to belief in the vast field of potentiality in which we live in, we have to take the appropriate right action to make sure we arrive at our destination. As an oft-quoted Amish gentleman once said, “If you want potatoes, you have to pick up a hoe.”

Every fiber of your being, as states Oprah Winfrey, will be your barometer when deciding a particular path or challenge to take on. “Opening to the possibilities and potentials therein” will keep the Universe in cooperation with fulfillment so long as we provide the necessary and appropriate action. Many people will set resolutions for the New Year, as a way to “begin anew.” Just remember the key to accomplishing those goals is to stay vigilant inside your head and “evict” any nay-sayer BEFORE it gets a chance to have its say! Then follow up with Right Action.

Right Thinking, Right Action will take us to where we want to go.

-Deborah Adler

©2010 Deborah Adler. All rights reserved.

“Whatever you have made of your life depends on how
you value all your challenges and hard knocks. Strife
develops character and we would be quite pale if we
lived differently.

“Do you see yourself in the children’s eyes
and hear your own pain in their cries?

“Do you not see your anger in their defiance?

“If not, you are not being real.

“We are all bewildered by life. Champions are not born.
they appear from the rubble of destruction.

“Let our loves be as Champions and leave
a legacy for the upcoming generation.”

-Pa’Ris’Ha – Cherokee Elder

It’s 10:44 PM and I’m looking back over a day that has been full of activity and productivity: prospecting for clients and business partners over the phone; a business luncheon turned into training; a late afternoon appointment to write a product application; connecting with a person I’m working with in recovery; attending a recovery discussion group together; coffee with my new gal afterwards; a team training call related to my network marketing business, and a phone call to one of my team mentors to top it off.

Our business luncheon took on a personalized “what daily activity do I need to do to reach my financial goals for the coming month” as our Regional Manager went around the table to grill each business partner. She worked out the numbers with each one of us– what is each sale worth (according to us respective positions), how many appointments do we need to get one sale – how many prospecting calls will it take to set one appointment? It was a “come to Jesus” meeting of sorts – but she could have just left because our guests failed to show, or worse yet if we hadn’t done the activity required to get someone there.

Coach Parisha Taylor has worked numbers with us on many occasions in a variety of business ventures. “Success is a numbers game” is a tried and true wisdom in any kind of sales. Persistency pays off. Quitting does not.

Coach Parisha Taylor has also shared the value of living each day as a complete “life” – including work, play, service to others, and communion with God.

This day has held many gifts. I’ve been able to reconnect with an old friend and help him with my business service, as well as support a local business person by meeting in his neighborhood café. Listening to another person in recovery – especially when they are new – is a gift I give to myself. I get to share the wisdoms of those who helped me along the way, and renew my appreciation for my own recovery. It’s an awesome win-win.

Looking back over my day, I’ve had a rich “life” this 24 hours. It’s been a good day and I am blessed.

I give appreciation to all who have added to my experience today, to all I have touched and have touched me. As always, I give great appreciation for the one known as Coach Parisha Taylor for being a part of my life today and every day! – Deborah Adler

 

©2010 Deborah Adler. All rights reserved.

In his recent book, The Business of the 21^st Century, Robert Kiyosaki writes, “I dedicate this book…to the millions of you who are a crossroads in life – who are affected by the current economic crisis and feeling helpless as to what you can do to secure your financial future. I want you to know that there are, despite what they may seem, the best times to take control of your future.”

Kiyosaki, author of NY Times Best Selling Book Rich Dad Poor Dad goes on to extol the virtues and advantages of network marketing as “The Business of the 21^st Century.”

Coach Parisha Taylor worked with a number of us some years ago in a venture – a network marketing opportunity – to help us learn about working with systems, team building and the financial advantages of leveraging our time as well as the merits of creating residual income.

Some people like to scoff at those who think outside the box and “reach for the brass ring” – or in this case, the gold ring. Those people seem to take great satisfaction when we might not succeed at a given venture. They are firmly embedded in the exchanging time for money model that has kept people enslaved for the majority of their lives down through the ages. They are the “Dream Stealers.”

Still others enjoy pointing out the appearance of repetitive failure to those of us who have been involved in a number of opportunities over the years. What I’ve finally come to appreciate is that while some of us grasp the concept – we then have to find our “passion.”

The fact is network marketing is a proven business model based upon following a system. If you’re teachable and are willing to follow instructions, you can succeed. When I hear someone say, “Oh, that didn’t work for me” I know what they’re really saying is that they didn’t work at it.

Like anything, there are those who have abused the compensation structure in the past. But there are reputable companies that have not only survived but thrived over the years and given honest, hardworking everyday people the chance to achieve “extraordinary” lives, while giving others much wanted monetary cushions over and above their job income.

In The Business of the 21^st Century, Kiyosaki explains Eight Wealth Building Assets which can be realized through the network marketing business model:

Asset #1. A Real-World Business Education

Asset #2. A profitable Path of Personal Development

Asset#3. A Circle of Friends Who Share Your Dreams and Values

Asset#4. The Power of Your Own Network

Asset #5. A Duplicable, Fully Scalable Business

Asset #6. Incomparable Leadership Skills

Asset#7. A Mechanism for Genuine Wealth creation

Asset #8. Big Dreams and the Capacity to Live Them

Most of us never learned about entrepreneurialism in school. Coach Parisha Taylor has taught pre-schoolers about generating income for themselves and to help others through their own business ventures. The kids get it – a lot quicker than most adults, because they don’t have any fear of failure. Ever run a lemonade stand as a kid? Or wash cars in the neighborhood?

Taken one step further, I’ve seen Coach Parisha Taylor help kids to learn about “duplicating” their efforts – bringing others on board to increase production/services and help others learn about how to become self-supporting through personal enterprise. She teaches them about reproducible systems. This would correlate to Kiyosaki’s “B” Quadrant. (See Cashflow Quadrant: Rich Dad’s Guide to Financial Freedom)

John Maxwell, in his book Failing Forward, stated that the average millionaire in America failed 19 times before he/she became successful.  Coach Parisha Taylor teaches us that we have to daily be willing to “up our failure rate by 300%” if we expect to succeed.

Back to network marketing. It teaches about how not to personalize rejection. It teaches the value of working together with a T.E.A.M. – as in

Together

Everyone

Achieves

More.

Many national and international corporations have turned to network marketing to grow their sales force. One has only to find their passion and then follow the system to success.

A word of caution:  If you don’t like people or you really don’t care about helping others, you probably won’t succee at network marketing. Because at the heart of network marketing is the old adage I’ve come to associate with a great teacher and salesman, Zig Ziglar: “You will always get what you want if you just help enough other people get what they want.”

This also brings me back to something Coach Parisha Taylor constantly instills in us: Our greatest work is Service to others. We must focus on the service. If we find a way to be of service, the money will follow.

After numerous “tries” down through the years, I have found my vehicle for helping others. I haven’t quit my “day job” yet – because I’m using that to take care of the basics while I build for my future with my network marketing business.

Some “experts” want us to believe that we live in a world of economic downturn.  Fact is there is abundance all around us. The old job model where you work for one company for 40 years and they take care of you with a pension until you die is out the window. But there’s a tried and true proven model out there that offers time and money freedom “in the now.” It requires hard work and determination not to be discouraged. But the rewords have no ceiling.

One last thought: If I want tomorrow to be different from yesterday I have to something different today.

If I’m just barely making ends meet with my current job income, then chances are it’s not going to improve as expenses continue to escalate. Few of us have the financial wherewithal to begin a franchise business – which can cost anywhere from five thousand upwards to half a million dollars! That makes a network marketing opportunity a great option to explore. But don’t just dip your toe in to test the waters. I suggest doing your due diligence to find the right fit for you in terms of product or service. In other words, Find Your Passion – and the run with it!

-Deborah Adler

©2010 Deborah Adler. All rights reserved.

republished from Articles at www.parishaonline.com:

A quote from Phil McGraw and commentary from ParishaTaylor

for a team of over 300

“Taking a long, hard look at the negative behaviors in your life and at your current life strategy – if you’ve even got one – can be more than enlightening: it can be the beginning of a Life Strategy. This self-check of how you are living day to day is of tremendous importance, since you will be, and are, accountable for your own life choices.” -Phil McGraw

As we come to each days challenges are we seeing the opportunity or are we complaining and looking at what we do not have and whining? Half full – half empty? Either way we are right, if that is the way we see it! How does that change? We change it, in every thought and every circumstance. We choose what it will be. Like it or not there is nobody out there but you!

Loser or Champion, it is our choice!

-Pa’Ris’Ha

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